Instead of contemplating how we would react if one of our children were molested, let's all start talking about how to prevent it in the first place!
The work of helping others pick up the broken pieces of their lives due to sexual trauma is important work--work that I will always be involved in. However, my focus now is PREVENTION and empowering parents and caretakers to proactively take steps to minimize the risk of having their children groomed harmed by predators.
If I could gift you in this moment with ONE KEY STEP in keeping your children safe, it would be this:
CULTIVATE AND KEEP AN OPEN LINE OF COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR CHILDREN
This actually sounds easier than it is, but these questions are important.
* Am I engaged and truly listening to my children even when I think they are tattling?
* Am I calm, cool, and collected when they are being emotional, providing a safe space where they can express themselves?
* Am I validating their concerns or complaints and offering understanding before I redirect them?
* Am I continually inviting my child to be open and honest, assuring them that, even if they feel they have done something wrong, that I will always love them and help them and advocate for them?
* Am I empowering them to advocate for themselves and supporting them as they learn to problem-solve?
* Am I teaching them the correct anatomical names for their body parts and letting them know that it's okay to ask questions?
* Am I making sure they know that secrets are not safe--but surprises are wonderful!
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Here are just a few of the other topics I speak about in my book:
~ Kids Most at Risk
~ A Child’s Autonomy
~ What Vigilance Looks Like
~ The Grooming Process
~ Kids Hurting Kids
~ Social Media
~ If the Unthinkable Happens
Daisy Rain Martin is an author, speaker, advocate, and educator as well as a founding member of The Flying M-Inklings Writing Group. She lives with her husband, Sean-Martin, in the beautiful state of Idaho and teaches English and Literature during the school year to the best 7th graders the world over. Daisy spends her summers writing, speaking, researching, creating, gardening, and canning.
Monsters Under the Bed: Practical Steps for Keeping Our Children Safe from Sexual Predators – This books is exactly what the title describes, written for those who understand that protecting our children is everybody’s job.